Bimr is right about the oxidation time for iron (even longer for manganese) if you are using aeration alone. However, the normal oxidation time can be reduced to an almost instantaneous reaction within the filter vessel itself when the media contains manganese dioxide or other types of oxidation catalysts. The porous stone is only one type of air distribution system, and it isn't really necessary in a pressurized system. The key to an air saturator is introducing air to water under pressure. At 68-deg. F and 65 psi, for example, approximately 9 - 10 mg/L of air will dissolve into the water. It's the pressure than drives the process.
Pressure aeration in conjuction with catalytic oxidation media is a viable option for reducing iron and manganese. Will it reduce iron and manganese to extremely low levels? That will require pilot testing on the actual water source to answer with any certainty. For that matter, any treatment scheme needs to be field tested on the actual water supply to be certain. We routinely monitor pressure aeration systems that are continuously producing iron and manganese levels below the maximum contaminant levels for potable water, but this might not be low enough to meet the RO manufacturer's feed water requirements. So you need to define the targets for iron and manganese first.
If you decide to look at pressure aeration as a treatment option, make sure that your potential supplier is experienced with similar successful applications and that they can pilot their process for more than a few weeks. There are a lot of "water doctors" today that read something in a text book or Google and then try to reverse engineer the process, with little or no experience in what they are doing other than the assumption that someone else has done it so it must work. Just make sure you get proof and not just claims from your supplier.
Bimr is right about the ion exchange softener's ability to reduce iron and manganese to extremely low levels. And the low calcium and magnesium is an added bonus. However, if any of the iron and manganese coming into the softener is already oxidized, then fouling of the softener will occur within a year or possibly sooner. This might be an acceptable risk, given that replacing resin can be made into a relatively simple task when a softener is properly designed to facilitate hydraulic transfer of old and new resin. Again, the experience of the designer/supplier is crucial here as well.
You might also find that pH adjustment and/or chemical sequestering is an adequate solution. Here again, you need to know exactly what targets the RO membrane manufacturer wants you to meet and what the actual water chemistry is from the source. Then consult with the membrane manufacturer, the RO device supplier, the pretreatment equipment supplier, and possibly even an outside consulting firm (especially if there seems to be a lot of conflicting opinions).
I would write a performance based specification based on the RO membrane requirements (in addition to your own) and then I would demand that any supplier prove that his system will meet the targets using a pilot scale model of the proposed system (for a sufficient period of testing) before you purchase something that you might be "stuck" with later on. Then I would follow up with a requirement for a Performance Bond sufficient to cover the replacement cost of the system. (This might not be warranted if your system cost is relatively small).
S. Bush