kurtjfred,
you can purchase individual ASTMs at the ASTM website if you have the reference number. (i.e. ASTM D698 is the standard Proctor test). since it's giving you so much heat, i would buy the ones listed in the project specs that apply to compaction testing if you don't have them already. I would be surprised if ASTM were to make judgment calls (or poor judgment calls in your case) with regards to frequency of testing and reporting turnaround time. But, you should know them since it is costing you money now and who knows, maybe you'll find some information to help defend other testing issues that may come up.
i agree with BigH about looking for some consideration up the chain of command. from what you've presented, you're not asking for leniency but reason.
also if this thing is truly slowing down the project and costing real money (as opposed to being a good scapegoat for the contractors and labor), you should look into hiring a reputable testing firm to provide compaction testing. Have the firm test in the exact locations that the county is testing as well as some additional locations. Offer to distribute the results to the owner and design team. it would be best if they could give the results to the county before the county officially tells you the results. you still might not get passing results, but you'll at least get them immediately with some feedback of what to do about it and can repair/retest. i'm going to speculate that any tester who is comfortable telling you the results tomorrow or the day after isn't too concerned with getting things fixed, just redone. that kind of move will probably ruffle some bureacratic feathers, but if someone tries to state that only the county test numbers will be valid, immediately look puzzled and ask why would there be any difference. if you choose this route, do the testing firm and yourself a favor and let them know the project history.