I would have to know more to make any specific comment.
I will say this in the hope it will help you.
I was in a manufacturer's test lab where the method of choice (read cheap) for creating extremely high pressure surges was to push a column of water down a pipe with an orifice at the end, with air in front of the water column. The air escapes the orifice rapidly, but when the column of water hits the orifice pressure surges are created, easily reaching 5,000 psi. The equipment is small, cheap, and easy to make and play with. I watched parts explode under these test conditions.
Your situation is very much like that.
I would go for simple, and something at the source rather than the end. Ramp up the pump with a drive, slow opening valve (motor operated butterfly?), similar things that can be installed at the source.
If you cannot do it at the source for unavoidable reasons, why not use an extremely linear closing PLC controlled motor operated valve? Something that would be close to fail safe seeing the damage that could be done if something does not work correctly.
My company is at this moment preparing to replace a whole bunch of equipment on a job where they have been having similar problems. This is a world class project, quite famous actually, so it is surprising. But they are depending on "slow closing" valves and have suffered immensely on this issue. One year ago we proved the solution by building and installing PLC controlled motor operated buttefly valves. Actually less expensive than what they had already installed. They are so happy after proving it for a year we are going to replace all their current five year old systems. I think this is tragic in a way, to install top notch "slow closing" devices and then suffer for it?
Actually, I have learned to consider the words "slow closing" to be an indication of trouble, big trouble. Any manufacturer using those terms is either ignorant of the problem (most common), or just made a simple understandable mistake in terms. The issue is not one of "slow closing", that is a red herring, not relevant.
The issue if LINEAR CLOSING and CONTROLLED RATE OF CLOSURE.
What say others on this?
PUMPDESIGNER