There is no reason you can't achieve 90 to 100 percent compaction of the subgrade or of the fill being placed. You have to control the moisture content to be compatible with the compaction process. The laboratory moisture-density relations help with that process.
You need to develop the moisture-density relations for the silt. In that regard, you'd need to develop the Standard Proctor (or Modified Proctor) moisture-density relations. That'd be ASTM D-698 or D-1557, respectively. Either of these would be important if you are looking to compact the native soil without any cement/lime stabilization (i.e., prepare the site for subsequent fill placement). However, if you have plans to improve the subgrade AND also use cement/lime in the subsequent lifts of new fill, you'd need to develop the moisture-density relations using the cement/lime stabilized blend. There are separate ASTM standards for developing moisture-density relations on lime/cement stabilized soils. Use those!
To actually gauge the field compaction, you have to take the field density tests immediately after compaction (i.e., before the cement or lime is fully hydrated). If you are doing the tests after several hours (or the next day), you are not following protocol and you'll get incorrect results.
I trust that you will actually seek out opinions from the geotechnical community and am surprised that few geotechnical engineers are providing opinions. Sure you are now up to two, hopefully something helps. I must say to the OP 80 percent relative compaction is almost like not compacting at all. Under the worst of all possible conditions, you'd be hard pressed to get below 75 percent relative compaction. Then again, you may be talking about relative density, which is completely different. 80 percent relative compaction is akin to 0 percent relative density, so that doesn't even make sense for a silt!
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