Need Advice Dealing with a Super-Annoying Co-worker
Need Advice Dealing with a Super-Annoying Co-worker
(OP)
Hi folks, it's like a Dilbert cartoon. Just asking out of frustration here, hoping you might have some advice on how to manage this. It's like I'm constantly butting heads with this guy. I'm a senior engineer in one section and he's a non-engineer manager in another section.
To give you an idea, he lectures me on various protocols, nit-picks, he's a micro-manager, suspicious, and doesn't like to take no for an answer. And if I respond to him with any sort of frustration, he'll tell my boss (who is also sick of this guy) or he'll go to the director (who hired the guy). This kind of behavior just isn't normal. He's a very intelligent, pain in the arse who just wears me down.
All right, sorry for the whining here ... I'm to the point where it's stressing me out and affecting my work though. I don't like dealing with him, let alone talking to him, but unfortunately I have to. Otherwise, I love my work and the people I work with. Any good, professional comebacks that you use to get people off your back or give them a hint? I know what I'd like to say, but he'll act like the victim. It's a delicate situation.
To give you an idea, he lectures me on various protocols, nit-picks, he's a micro-manager, suspicious, and doesn't like to take no for an answer. And if I respond to him with any sort of frustration, he'll tell my boss (who is also sick of this guy) or he'll go to the director (who hired the guy). This kind of behavior just isn't normal. He's a very intelligent, pain in the arse who just wears me down.
All right, sorry for the whining here ... I'm to the point where it's stressing me out and affecting my work though. I don't like dealing with him, let alone talking to him, but unfortunately I have to. Otherwise, I love my work and the people I work with. Any good, professional comebacks that you use to get people off your back or give them a hint? I know what I'd like to say, but he'll act like the victim. It's a delicate situation.





RE: Need Advice Dealing with a Super-Annoying Co-worker
RE: Need Advice Dealing with a Super-Annoying Co-worker
Stand up to the guy in a non-threatening manner.
If it escalates after this, send a copy of your log to HR.
Chris, CSWA
SolidWorks '15
ctophers home
SolidWorks Legion
RE: Need Advice Dealing with a Super-Annoying Co-worker
Agreed ctopher, I've been logging this stuff for the past year or so. I think it's getting to that time to just lower the boom.
RE: Need Advice Dealing with a Super-Annoying Co-worker
1) He'll get bored and go mess with someone else
2) Somebody will set some guidelines for directing other manager's direct reports
The fastest way to flush it out is to emphasize (but be subtle) when your manager's priorities conflict with this other guy's.
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RE: Need Advice Dealing with a Super-Annoying Co-worker
Well, you could always go to HR and tell them that in spite of any contributions that he or those kind of people make, all HR and management hiring decisions should go through you so as to not hire anyone that could potentially annoy you.
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Mike McCann, PE, SE (WA)
RE: Need Advice Dealing with a Super-Annoying Co-worker
And if you're frustrated, just think of above.
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TygerDawg
Blue Technik LLC
Virtuoso Robotics Engineering
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I hope you all have a happy holiday!
RE: Need Advice Dealing with a Super-Annoying Co-worker
It is better to have enough ideas for some of them to be wrong, than to be always right by having no ideas at all.
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One thing I've learned the hard way in documenting and sending to HR, is I usually would do it when I'm mad, and it just makes me look like I'm the e a-hole (and I probably have been at some time or another). Write it down, then wait a few days before re-reading and sending.
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Maui
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Pathetic but I just couldn't start out my week with a conversation with him.
What is Engineering anyway: FAQ1088-1484: In layman terms, what is "engineering"?
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I read this fella's books last year and learned a whole lot about human behavior. It completely changed my ways of thinking about some people. I would suggest reading at least Character Disturbance. Dr. George Simon, Ph.D.
Pamela K. Quillin, P.E.
Quillin Engineering, LLC