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lost in communication with colleagues
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lost in communication with colleagues

lost in communication with colleagues

(OP)
hi all,

I am a starter in a relatively big company, quite often I got confused in communication with my colleagues here. Can you help me to understand if the below email is a joke or truely insult?

The context is that I was under the impression that my collegue was going to do sth, and sent him an email to ask if he did it already.

What do you read in this email? How should I respond?

Thanks.


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Are you crazy? Do you need your head examined? He he and merry xmas.

Seriously,

I  need to talk to you about this, and will call you shortly.

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RE: lost in communication with colleagues

I would interpret it to mean that there is some reason that your request to him was either not possible, or perhaps a career ending move, and that he/she is going to talk to you to give you the background/inside info.

Maybe the big boss threatened to fire anybody who got involved in whatever the issue was, and you're not aware.

I wouldn't take it as an insult, I think it's a way of giving you the heads up that there's a lot more to this story.

Let us know what the result of the call is.

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

I believe the he he was the respondent laughing, so no, I would not take that as an insult.

As TenPenny said, there may be some background information that you're not aware of.

V

Mechanical Engineer
"When I am working on a problem, I do not think of beauty, but when I've finished, if the solution is not beautiful, I know it is wrong."

- R. Buckminster Fuller

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

That was definitely an insult. I suggest you immediately confront your co-worker and punch him in the throat as hard as you can.

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

The "He he and merry christmas" was the release valve indicating this was in jest...then the "seriously" meant there might be an issue with the original topic and he'd like to speak with you about it..

I'd take it as a light-hearted email - but one with a followup request to speak...not a big deal to me if I got it.

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

Talk to him maturely and find out if he is serious or not. If serious, talk to your manager.

Chris
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RE: lost in communication with colleagues

"I'm Joking with you."
Seriously,
"I've managed to push this task on you."

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RE: lost in communication with colleagues

(OP)
Thanks a lot for your input. Can you help me to formulate an answer? Is the answer below too weak? Is a phone call more appropriate?

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My head must be broken when I thought you were going to do it. Guess my mind went on the wrong way when you said "I have made arrangements" in your earlier email. Anyway I have talked to xxx and she is going to help to complete it.

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RE: lost in communication with colleagues

Just call him.

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

Quote:

Seriously,

I  need to talk to you about this, and will call you shortly.

Wait for his call.

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RE: lost in communication with colleagues

Wait for his/her call.  If you feel the need to respond to the email, simply respond by saying that you'll wait for the call.

Obviously, there is something this person wants to communicate to you, and you would be best advised to wait until you find out what it is.

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

It is just a very "informal" e-mail that you would write to your friends or someone you are familiar with.  Would it make any difference if context of his e-mail was verbal?

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

Stop sending emails on this until you find out what it is all about.

Verbal communication only, except as TenPenny advises.

Also, make sure your CV is up to date. (just kidding, or maybe not, always a good idea anyway).

JMW
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RE: lost in communication with colleagues

I agree with JAE.  It was said jokingly.  But there is an issue.  I wouldn't worry about it.  The hehe is the key.

You reponse might be a little harsh IMHO.  I always proof read my wife's emails before she sends out a scorcher.  She has a habit of unknowingly insulting the intended recipient, her boss, CEO and whoever else reads it all at once ;)  
Just wait a day or two for his call.  If someone else has offered to help ignore the email.

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

I agree with JAE.  It was said jokingly.  But there is an issue.  I wouldn't worry about it.  The hehe is the key.

He will read your response to mean that you are angry.  If thats what you are going for thats fine.  But the original email was meant to be lighthearted.  I might just ignore it or joke back.

I always proof read my wife's emails before she sends out a scorcher.  She has a habit of unknowingly insulting the intended recipient, her boss, CEO and whoever else reads it all at once ;)  

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

coldmountain,

   Politely ask the person to explain the email.  Lots of people do not express themselves well in writing, and do not think carefully before they hit SEND.  This may be just very bad writing.  

   The email reads a lot like spam to me.  Perhaps someone's computer is infected.  It is not necessarily that of your co-worker.

                            JHG

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

I think the lazy approach is the best, wait for them, since they said they would call you, dont sweat it and just not worry about it.

If you seem them before they called just say, you said you wanted to talk with me about (PROJECT XYZ).

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

Don't worry. As we say in my country:
"You are making a storm in a glass of water"...
Did you consider that he/she is just teasing you because he/she knows that you are a rookie?
If you really want to figure out the meaning of the email, just give him/her a call. Do not reply by email.

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

Definitely a joke.

Considering that the joke was made in response to you asking whether he had completed a requested task, he may have been thiking about how buried he was in work and how far your request was down in his priority list.  His response resembles what I would often like to say when my boss asks me out of the blue the status of some long-term or low-priority project that I haven't even started, much less finished.

Either way I wouldn't read too much into it.

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RE: lost in communication with colleagues

Wait for him to call, or accidently bump into him or happen to be walking past his office and pop in or similar (only works if in the same office).

He was joking, there's probably more to the story.

Or do as mechengdude suggests and have a Merry Christmas in Jail!

KENAT, probably the least qualified checker you'll ever meet...

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

You have been given a clue that your co-worker is going to call you between Christmas and New Years.  Other wise he/she would have said "merry xmas and happy new year" (unless you are in Canada, then he/she would have said happy boxing day).

You are to sit tight until the week between Christmas and New Year, then you will be given further instructions.

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

First thing. CHILL OUT ! This is a definetly jokey email and this is how I would read it.

You : have you done this thing ?

Them : ha ha ha, not a hope, but don't worry too much about it at the moment. I'll give you a call to explain the situation, then we can discuss.

Your reply is quite curt, and would be perceived at best as a lack of any kind of sense of humour and at works as uppity from a new starter. If its REALLY burning you up like it sounds it is, go and see them or ring them up to clarify now. Otherwise don't worry about it and wait for them to ring.

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

I'd just call up (on the phone, with real voices instead of text) and say "okay, I don't get it.  What's up?"

RE: lost in communication with colleagues

One of the downfalls of email is they are often misconstrued because they are read out of context. Suspicions and presumptions from your sub-conscious are actively interpreting or setting the mood of the letter. So if you've felt in the past that he is offensive you probably will tend to interpret the context in this offensive manner. If it is difficult to objectively translate the the email, then I'd suggest you converse with him/her face to face and set a sincere tone that will promote a sincere reaction.
  Body language is sometimes easier to read than email.
  

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