Does being nice impede your career?
Does being nice impede your career?
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Don't know that it's news as such but this caught my eye:
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I never considered myself overly nice but since I'm guilty of some of the listed traits apparantly I am!
How about you?
Or maybe where do you draw the line between being a team player/proffesional etc and being a door mat?
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I never considered myself overly nice but since I'm guilty of some of the listed traits apparantly I am!
How about you?
Or maybe where do you draw the line between being a team player/proffesional etc and being a door mat?
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RE: Does being nice impede your career?
For me, something important I learned was how to say "no". In the past in order to help, I was to quick to say "yes, I can help". Now, I pause see if there is time for me to help, and then see what can be done.
RE: Does being nice impede your career?
However, there is a huge difference between being kind, polite, cordial, and professional and being a pushover that no one respects, no matter how well liked that pushover may be.
Pushovers allow their companies to transfer the burden of problems with staffing and planning or poor management by consistently working unpaid overtime. The way I always operate when salaried is that unpaid overtime is expected to help get a project through a rough patch. If it's used to correct systemic problems on my back, though, it will require a corresponding increase in salary. One way or another, the company will pay for my time and will not be able to push the financial burdens of its troubles onto me.
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To me, being nice means not being a jerk but being courteous. Doesn't mean I'll accept crap jobs. Since when doesn't saying NO mean you aren't nice. You can easily, politely refuse work - espeically if you know someone else is being a jerk and pawning it off.
Heck, most of the biggest jerks I know are the pushovers. They are the ones who smile to the big bosses but curse behind their back and have the bad attitudes because they are pissed they aren't getting ahead.
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RE: Does being nice impede your career?
Or did you mean the title of the article.
Personally I don't think being 'nice' means impeding your career or being a push over. Although I will admit from my personal experience that the nice, while still effective, managers are in the minority.
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Being nice is neither necessary nor sufficient to be an enabler.
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But being good to the co-workers I think is better than saying what I really feel towards some of them after they are rude to me. I know this would only result in them harboring grudges against me. This is particularly the case with some of the more sensitive employees who can dish it out but not take it.
One things for sure, in the case of a few women I work with, I'm glad I'm not the one married to them!
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But u'r correct, I meant to refer to the title of the article.
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Be objective, have a good argument, and don't be afraid to say NO ... then you will get somewhere on the job.
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RE: Does being nice impede your career?
I am interning at a medium-to-large company. Recently my boss gave me a really good review on my performance. He told me that he is looking to setup a tour/may-be-interview with one of the engineering depts. of the company. He asked me if I am interested.
How can I politely tell him NO ... although, I can see myself working for this company, but there is one other company where I would really like to work and wants to try interviewing for that.
How can I politely say NO and ask for a little time to consider?
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"What, are you nuts? What happens if they turn you down?"
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Smart woman your mother, she would have been good in risk management.
csd
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I'm not sure putting my needs before my companies needs is in the best interest of the company between 0700-1630 hrs. I think people would be more effective is they didn't have an agenda.
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RE: Does being nice impede your career?
Don't turn the interview down, unless you are 100% sure that you don't want to work there. It sounds like you've made a good impression (not necessarily a given with interns, speaking from personal experience as both an intern and someone who occasionally works with interns), and that first job is the hardest one to get.
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GregLocock (Automotive)
26 Jul 07 20:03
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Don't turn the interview down, unless you are 100% sure that you don't want to work there. It sounds like you've made a good impression (not necessarily a given with interns, speaking from personal experience as both an intern and someone who occasionally works with interns), and that first job is the hardest one to get.
Cheers
Greg Locock
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Interview, and if, main word being if, they offer you the job, ask for an outrageous salary 10-20k more than you think you deserve. If you don't shoot you don't score. From the sounds of it you haven't much industtry experience and believe me when I say there are many advantages and disadvantages to every company, but at the end of the day, they are all the same. Don't think that if you work for one company you're going to have the job of your dreams. That job doesn't exist, unless you are into lawn care...
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you seems a little pessimistic,you said the job of dream never exists,I guess that must be related to your own experience while most of time the conclusion from someone`s experience would not always be fit for others,
to say that we need to know how to define a "job of dream",
in my words ,I wouyld define it as "satisfying",my mom always told me never say the mountain you see is the highest in the world.but we could do like this,NOT care about the higher mountain in the distance ,enjoy the one you stand on.and as it comes to the job ,I put it in the same way.
OK ,let`s come back to the topic,nice would never come to the negative way if we use it to describe our innermost feeling.Afterall, we work not just for being working ,while what`s more we are making a beautiful memory.
This is all what I feels (personal for reference).
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