Remembering Names
Remembering Names
(OP)
I was at a conference last week and realized that I have a very difficult time remembering names. Sometimes they are "in one ear and out the other"; I'll be having a conversation and realize I had forgotten their name already. Other times, I concentrate on their name, remember it for the conversation, and forget the next day.
So the question is: what do you do to remember names? I truly believe this is an obstacle I need to overcome.
Thanks for any and all help!
So the question is: what do you do to remember names? I truly believe this is an obstacle I need to overcome.
Thanks for any and all help!





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"repetition is the mother of retention" What I do, say after getting a phone # for example, is that after a few minutes I go back and try to repeat the phone # just by memory. I do this whit names and other stuff at work also when I don't have pencil & paper in front of me.
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I am not afraid to as for someone's name a second time. In engineering circles, the "bad with names" foible seems pretty common and is accepted.
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Hello SomeYahoo,
In a meeting or classroom I write every one's name down (including the teacher's).
Another trick, I generally try to give my business card and hopefully receive the other person's card too (i.e. I have their name in the card).
Best regards,
Joseph
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I also go to trusted people fairly often to point at others and ask, "Who's that again?" Eventually it sinks in.
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In my experience (mostly with friends), I find people who can't remember names also can't remember other things (like when the meeting is, or the corner store run list, or who's turn it is to pick up the beer tab).
If you can practice remembering things in general, maybe that will translate over to remembering names?
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I used to think the same thing. I think it's because the kind of people that are good at remembering names (and therefore use your name frequently) are usually salesmen or politicians. Once I realized that it could be used for good as well as evil I changed my mind.
-b
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I have found that if you frequently need to learn new names - then you "sharpen this skill".
I have become a scout leader a couple of years back. I need to learn the kids name fast - because they have much more respect for you when you use their name. So if you get involved in an "non professional" activity where you meet new people frequently then i believe this could improve your ability to learn new names.
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Morten
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I generally jot names down on my palm and make small lists for business and social groups. Really to discretely manage contact info.
I believe it really helps to remember names, particularly of those people in my own organization that are lower on the food chain. I think it sends a message that they are recognized and are not invisible.
I'm not choosy, I'll accept assisitance from anyone if it helps me get the job done.
I find it's all just a matter of focus and priorities anyway. Very few of us can be sucessful without the assistance and support from the others, internally and externally.
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Again... thanks.
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Think of an association with the person's name. for instance, I just got introduced to someone on Sunday. his name was Charles. I would NEVER have remembered it, but made a point to think "Charles in Charge" from the 80's/ 90's TV show with Scott Baio. It worked. When I read this thread I thought "what was his name?" and thought I had forgotten. But then "Charles in Charge" flashed in my head.
Disclaimer, be sure not to accidentally call the person my the name- ie, you think of "Fat Albert" when introduced to s guy named Albert. Also, don't laugh at whatever image comes to mind while doing the name association thing!
Ed
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In a roundtable setting, I try to write down the names as they are mentioned during the course of the meeting (and the company they represent). It helps when cards are exchanged before the meeting.
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In the military, you can always call others "Sir", "Colonel", "Sarge" ;)
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If there's one thing all successful politicians have in common it's remember the right people's names.
"I've given up and will ask for someone's name as many times as necessary. I also can't remember faces and ask often "Where have we met?"."
That's an excellent technique, too. It's also a good way to ask someone's name for the last time; that is, you'll remember it from then on.
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This is important especially when we are working with people from different backgrounds/nationalities. Being from the East, I can say that quite a number of people from the Asia have long names. I notice similar things among my colleagues say from Africa, Latin America and some part of Europe too. It is also on our part to make sure that people can remember our names when we talk to them. For example:
1. Use a shorter/simplified call name on daily-basis. (You can't teach one all those thermodynamic equation-of-states without first introducing them to the basic ideal gas law, can you?)
2. It's better for us to tell others how we'd like them to address us, before they start to simplify our names according to their own tastes/version. Example, "I'm Defghijk, call me Def!" Now I won't blame you if you can't remember my name as 'Defghijk', but don't tell me you can't remember 'Def'!
3. Additionally, if you have a name card, give it to them.
4. I notice that sadly, some people are discriminative towards the amount of effort they will put in to remember others. For example, if you tend to tell to people, "Hi, I'm Defghijk, I'm a graduate engineer, I wonder if bla bla bla". Chances are that you'd be deemed as less useful for him/her because you are perceived as a graduate employee with no experience and what ever questions or tasks that you are handling would be perceived as non-urgent etc... So chances are that they won't really care if they can remember you. So, why bother telling people "I'm a graduate"? Just say that you are an engineer doing so and so. Enough said.
It can be quite annoying sometimes when people don't pronounce our names properly, particularly full names, or especially if they start to shorten our names not in the way that we want it to be. But don't blame it on others if we haven't make any effort for people TO remember us easily. Only then can we blame the rest for their incompetency to remember our names.
All and all I just want to say is that, like most other communications, this is a 2-way process. People must put in efforts to remember others' names, but we also have responsibility to make ourselves easily and correctly remembered. Sorry for the rambling guys, just my 2 cent opinion.
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Works well, and when someone calls you on it, it makes for light side conversation.