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Working in a "family" business...

Working in a "family" business...

(OP)
Here is my situation:
I am a civil engineer with 9 years of experience. I work on private land development projects. The company I work for has been established for over 70 years...grandfather started company, handed down to sons, now to granddaughter. The gd is in her early 40's and "took over" about 2 years ago. She has zero management, engineering or surveying skills, experience, or even insight; basically inherited the company and is doing I don't know what to run things.
It is very important in this profession to make regular site visits, as we all know. So, on almost every occasion that an engineer has gone to a site (she looks at the billable time/timesheets to know this) she later accuses each of us of not really going, and this irritates the crap out of me and my co-workers. She will start with a comment like "So, how were things at the XYZ site on Tuesday?". Thinking she is genuinely interested in knowing, I begin to say....but am then interrupted with a comment like "Someone I know drove by and did not see you." This has happened to me and others, actually causing some great people to leave. I have been in the office on a Saturday, working, and then have comments made that "someone" she knows did not see my car...
Anyone out there dealing with any of these issues? Or working for a "non-technical" boss? She can't be fired, since she pretty much owns the company. It seems a shame that a firm that is so well-established is now being run by someone that is rather clueless. If it wasn't for the fact that I really enjoy the work and the clients, I would think of leaving. The only other firms in the nearby area are consulting firms. I specifically left consulting since I was burnt out on DOT-type projects, and find private jobs more diverse and fulfilling. I am a people person.

I welcome any feedback on this. Thanks for reading my post.

RE: Working in a "family" business...

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Document all site visits on paper and with photos.

Look for another job, 'coz it's her company.

Otherwise, how's she look? Maybe you ought to take her to dinner or something.It might be the way to a lucrative position for yourself...

RE: Working in a "family" business...

(OP)
My site visits are very well documented. Plus I take photos, with my own camera I might add....

Your other suggestion won't work. I happen to be a female. A heterosexual one, at that, so cozying up to the boss is out of the question, lol.

My gut feeling about people like this (i.e. mistrustful) is that the accuser is often the guilty one, and perhaps I have a reason to not be trusting my boss.....

RE: Working in a "family" business...

Aha! Plan C: is the boss' bad management costing you money? If not, then putting up with her is simply the "cost" of doing buisness.

RE: Working in a "family" business...

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Get a digital camera that can take videos, and a big memory card for it.  When you go to a site, take a bunch of stills, and at least one long video with a 360 degree pan sequence, recording the state of the site and the presence of the people who happened to be present.  Also take a video and a still of yourself, site as background, holding the day's newspaper.  Burn the whole mess on a CD.  File it with your trip report, or hand it to her when she asks about the site visit.

There are two reasons for doing so:  
1.  It puts you in a defensible position with the boss.
2.  It may save you supplemental site visits to answer questions about details that you didn't specifically investigate at the time.

Given the tiny incremental cost of recording (not printing) a digital image, photographing the hell out of a site should be company SOP at every visit.

Yeah, in theory the company should provide the camera, too.  But shared cameras are never available when you need them.





Mike Halloran
Pembroke Pines, FL, USA

RE: Working in a "family" business...

MikeHalloran - A wonderful idea! One minor additional  comment - make sure that the internal time/date in the camera are correct so that time/date of the digital image files produced agrees with your written report timeline.

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RE: Working in a "family" business...

When you find it necessary to take the kinds of precautions MikeHalloran is suggesting, the time to leave has long since left you.

RE: Working in a "family" business...

I don't think of it primarily as a precaution.  

That said, it's clear that the new owner doesn't know what she's doing, and doesn't know whom to trust.  Which may be an opportunity, if you can establish yourself as a consistent truth- teller.

Or, not.  The logical response to "... someone I know was there and didn't see you" is,

YOU'RE THE GOSH DARN BUSINESS OWNER!  

WHY THE HECK WEREN'T >>>YOU<<< THERE TO SEE FOR YOURSELF!!!

Okay, put that way, it that might not be a good career move.  But if the opportunity presents, you might casually mention that she can pay junior accountants to check timesheets.  No one but the business owner can be out and about, keeping the customers happy, and that's where she should be ... on the road, all the time.



Mike Halloran
Pembroke Pines, FL, USA

RE: Working in a "family" business...

bear26,

Start looking for a new job ASAP. When a company is run by someone like your current employer, it won't be around for long.

RE: Working in a "family" business...


"Someone I know drove by and did not see you."
Advise her of your next visit & suggest that the "someone", instead of driving by, should next time stop at the site & call in to see you. Better still invite her to accompany you.

"that "someone" she knows did not see my car..."
"perhaps I have a reason to not be trusting my boss....."
Absolutely do not trust her! She could very well be the "someone".

Is the company in a good financial position? Could you and your colleagues buy her out?

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RE: Working in a "family" business...

MikeHalloran,

To advise to video the site visit is a good one, independent of this thread. Digital video cameras are cheap, and memory cheaper. My videos have saved a lot of hours later phoning to clarify something. Just keep in mind the area classification, and get permission from the site manager to shot videos.

bear26,

I would advise to start looking for another job.

Your boss trusts this "somene I know" more than anyone else. Otherwise, she would be asking you and not accusing you.

I work as a consultant, in the consulting field. Not all of us are bad, burning people out. I have had many contracts where the work was fulfilling, overall, my contracts are quite diverse. Sure, some jobs will burn you out, but most are pretty normal.

Sounds like if you stay where you are, you will be burned out soon enough anyways.

RE: Working in a "family" business...

I certainly don't mean to say taking pictures and video is a bad idea.  The camera sees all and records without prejudice.  I find my digital camera invaluable for things like this.

The problem I see is that if you are in a position where you are forced to constantly protect yourself from "Captain Queeg's" paranoid accusations, it's time to move on.

RE: Working in a "family" business...

(OP)
Thanks to everyone for all of the input and feedback.

There have been a few good engineers that have left because of her behavior. Part of me says to ignore it; the other part says to go somewhere else. In reality though, it is tough to ignore.

The last accusation was that she did not believe that I was at a site (I went to discuss discrepancies over the stake out plan with the contractor) because I was not dressed for it! I happened to be wearing a skirt that day, and failed to bring jeans (I keep my workboots at the office.) If I knew I would have been going to the site, I certainly would have thrown jeans on. (To me it was not worth making the contractor wait, hell, wearing a skirt to a construction site and feeling like an idiot was my punishment for failing to keep an extra set of clothes at the office or in my car!)Anyway, due to this, she absolutely did not think I went there, and said to me "You were dressed to go to a party, not a site, so I doubt that you were there!". But this time the "someone" ususally mentioned did not drive by...

A colleague and I (another CE)have discussed the possibility of leaving to start our own business with a survey group nearby, in which case 90% of the clients would probably follow. That would leave the company without a PE. Although not impossible, this is much easier said than done, obviously.

The financial position of the company is very healthy at this time. Seventy years of clients, which include retail shops, gas stations, private land developers, just to name a few, means that the repeat business is tremendous. She stepped into the picture less than 2 years ago, which is not really enough time to screw things up too bad.
We do have a few survey crews, which is all that would be left if the two of us left.

RE: Working in a "family" business...

Since the gd didn't sell out right away, I have to assume she wants to keep the business going, and remain a part of it.  However, she lacks the technical skill to lead the business in any direct way, and the soft skills to lead it indirectly.  Surely she knows that, at some level.  She needs help; a chief engineer or a business manager or some combination would do.  

Maybe she's shopping for someone strong enough to stand up to her.  

Public confrontation with the boss is not generally a good idea, though some bosses won't respect you unless you've faced them down.  

A brief example of facing down the boss:  The Director of Engineering (a PhD EE) stumbled into our design shop one day, thought he knew all about the mechanical drawing on one of the tables, and, er, dumped on the designer.  Later the same day, I buttonholed him in the hallway outside his office and said something like, "If you've got a beef with what Larry is doing, the beef is with me, because he's doing _exactly_ what I told him to do.".  He backed down right away, and didn't bother my designers after that.  My boss was not present for the meeting, nor was his boss.  Our conversation was a 'chance' encounter, which I had arranged with the Director's secretary.

A private conversation might convince her of your professionalism.  She may not realize, for example, that you swore an oath to protect the public above all other considerations, and that you take your word very seriously, and that she can, too.

Mike Halloran
Pembroke Pines, FL, USA

RE: Working in a "family" business...

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In my country we have a saying that is usually applicable:

The first generation starts;
The second genration develops and
The third generation destroys

In another company where I worked for it happened something similar: the third generation also didn't managed to keep the company with personal problems between them. At least those ones were clever enough to sell it while it was still fat.

Regarding the site visits, next time I suggest that you pick up the phone, call the persons that you met on site and pass the phone to your boss. Make this a couple of times and she will most probably get the message.

Just one more thing: the relationship between employer and employee is based on TRUST: I TRUST that my boss will pay me what was agreed previously, and he TRUSTS that I will perform the work that I was hired for.
If your boss is treating you like a criminal, this relationship was broken and this is not place to stay.

Good luck

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Quote (bear26):

A colleague and I (another CE)have discussed the possibility of leaving to start our own business with a survey group nearby

GO!!!

This is a great chance to do something for yourself, work for yourself, be your own boss, and work with people you respect.

Good Luck!

What's a CE?

RE: Working in a "family" business...

CE = Civil Engineer

cheers
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RE: Working in a "family" business...

Thanks. blush

RE: Working in a "family" business...

I agree with TheTick.  What are you, twelve?  If you can make it work, that will be a credit to your good character, but no one could blame you for finding some where else.  No engineer works that hard to be treated like a kid who is guilty until proven innocent.  Maybe it's time to say that.

RE: Working in a "family" business...

She has zero management, engineering or surveying skills, experience, or even insight; basically inherited the company and is doing I don't know what to run things.

It's her family business and she never took the initiative to gain the basic knowledge to be involved in the business?  Didn't she know that she was going to be the heir?  If she did know, and she never took any interest then, she won't make it too much longer now.  I would recommend going out on your own as you discussed.  Sounds like a great opportunity and this might be the push that you need.  Good luck!

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So, "someone she knows" did this and did that.

Basically, she's calling you a liar. That's something you need to address, stand up for yourself and it will stop.

Ask who this someone is, if she does not want to say, then let her know that "someone" is a damn fool, and she better get herself another rat; because her current rat either does not know what kind of car you drive or is just plain stupid.

At this point, it does not matter how you treat her; she has called you a liar, and it's time to move anyway.

I wonder if she has a small army of "someones" driving around with a list of cars to look for.

Charlie
www.facsco.com

RE: Working in a "family" business...

All good suggestions above - both if you decide to stay with the company or strike out on your own.  One idea I didn't see would be to contact her dad.  Depending on how long you've been at the company and if he knew you or not will determine whether this is possible.  Or maybe he just gets an anonymous letter...  This also depends on if you think dad would be able to see through his daughter's lack of business skill.

Honestly if you can take 90% of the clients, do it.  Even better if you convince one of the two remaining survey crews to go with you.  Buy a few computers, some software, file for the business license, and *BOOM* - instant freedom from the non-trusting, can't-manage, former boss.

RE: Working in a "family" business...

(OP)
I had a talk with her father, who comes in about once every two months, for a few days. I made him aware of the situation. He said he would "straighten things out". I told him, "Could you please let me know that you have spoken to her and lets come to some understanding on this issue? I cannot work under these conditions." He replied, "Certainly, Of course!".

It's been weeks and I have not heard a word.

Guess it's time to put my wheels in motion.

Thanks everyone for the posts with all the great suggestions and comments! I especially liked the newspaper idea!

When I do leave, I just may print this thread and leave one copy on her desk and one on her fathers!

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Let see - a dad has to choose between daughter and someone who once worked for him.  Not surprised at his choice.

Told ya over a month ago to "GO". Up to you.

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RE: Working in a "family" business...

Get out. My old "war wounds" tell me that this is probably only the beginning. There is an old saying regarding family businesses: "shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations". You don't want to be around when the ship finally sinks.

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"Clogs to clogs in three generations" is another.

My gut says that talking to dad was a bad move and not just because he isn't going to chose you over his daughter.

Dad has "retired" and now has no real idea what is going on; I assume he talks to his daughter more than he talks to the employees. She may not like him "interfering" and may see his visits as "checking up on her." Way more pitfalls than any other scenario.

Worse, you haven't spoken with the GD but "gone over her head" to her old man..... and if he does mention it to her it will probably be indirect:
"Hey Hon, how are getting on with Bear26? Is she doing a good job for you?"
"Why do you ask dad?"
"Well, she doesn't seem happy about something. Is everything OK?"
"Oh it's nothing I can't handle, I've had to pull her up a few times about not being on site when she is supposed to be. I've some bad reports."
She might even imply that you resent her for being the boss.

Just my view but I'd suggest you stop digging and go look for another job.
 

JMW
www.ViscoAnalyser.com

RE: Working in a "family" business...

I was in a very similar situation 25 yrs ago. I left and never looked back. It's a big world out there with plenty of opportunity. Just open the door and walk.

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