A negative unprofessional coworker
A negative unprofessional coworker
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I am concerned about a co-worker who is negative and unprofessional towards me. I believe the issue started about 2 months ago and is related to an after work happy hour discussion. This guy always talks about politics whether in work or out and I happen to disagree with him.
I took him and another coworker on in a spirited debate (once again outside of work in a pub).
Since then it's been the cold war. Now I am more worried because I will be moving into the same office he works in.
When I ask him for assistance on things, he completely blows me off. He will go out of his way however to help the young attractive women that work in that office. He will talk with them for hours and joke with them, half the time I see him he is either joking with them or helping them with their work.
I think this is totally unprofessional. He doesn't even acknowledge me when I say hi.
Now I'm moving into an office feet from him. I will continue to say hello in the morning, but I won't let take any crap from him.
I work too hard to put up with this emotionally charged basketcase. I have never seen anything like it in any of my jobs. I don't expect that we have to be friends, but he should be professional at work.
I spoke with other coworkers about him and they said there are people in the department that he hasn't spoken a word to in years because of an argument.
I took him and another coworker on in a spirited debate (once again outside of work in a pub).
Since then it's been the cold war. Now I am more worried because I will be moving into the same office he works in.
When I ask him for assistance on things, he completely blows me off. He will go out of his way however to help the young attractive women that work in that office. He will talk with them for hours and joke with them, half the time I see him he is either joking with them or helping them with their work.
I think this is totally unprofessional. He doesn't even acknowledge me when I say hi.
Now I'm moving into an office feet from him. I will continue to say hello in the morning, but I won't let take any crap from him.
I work too hard to put up with this emotionally charged basketcase. I have never seen anything like it in any of my jobs. I don't expect that we have to be friends, but he should be professional at work.
I spoke with other coworkers about him and they said there are people in the department that he hasn't spoken a word to in years because of an argument.





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I will have to ignore him. I'm pretty sure in the new office it will be all work on my side. I'll let him play games and hit on girls 30 years his junior.
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Loudmouth guys tend to want to engage you. If you don't engage them they generally leave you alone.
Wes C.
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I would be careful about talking about him behind his back though. You do not want to come across as being 'two-faced'. I'm not saying you are but be careful, some people may take it the wrong way.
Cheers
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If the answer is no, it's a lot more tougher and you need to tackle it differently.
Good luck
HVAC68
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Make it a point to always be courteous and professional with this person, especially in front of others. Maintain your professional bearing and you will simply outshine him. You'll also be a better person for it.
Don't agonize over gaining or losing this person's respect. If his judgment is that clouded by a single debate in a pub, then regaining his respect isn't worth the effort. Simply be respectable.
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I'll keep you posted. After all I go to work to work not win a popularity contest, but this guy is unprofessional.
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1) Stop watching CNN, Fox News, or anyother network news channel. They over dramatize everything and rarely report things correctly. I perfer to get my news from yahoo's website. It seems like the news articles on yahoo is more about getting to the point of the facts rather than the opionions of the network.
2) Only listen and never participate in the debates. I usually find it more entertaining to listen to others make a fool of themselves than to open my mouth.
"It's better for people to think that you are an idiot than it is to open your mouth and remove all doubt."
3) Read "How To Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
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For your current situation, all you can do is be as positive and professional as possible. He'll either cooperate or he won't. I like the idea of trying to put some distance between you and him, although I realize that is easier said than done.
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Now, I try and avoid him as much as possible - just a routine "hi" and "good morning" when I bump on to him face-to-face. Otherwise, every little interaction I have with him is through e-mail only. I am very careful in choosing the language and tone of my mails and have so far been successful. People have started realising who is right and who is wrong - not too many pretty girls here though - :0(
Retaliating in public has had bad influences. I also have a good friend with whom I share these - sometimes, you need to do that to avoid a pressure-cooler situation.
HVAC68
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Maui
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Believe me I won't let him continue when I'm in the same office.
I will say hi to him once in the morning and nothing else unless to defend myself.
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- That the guy's behavior has been allowed to continue for any length of time suggests that either your management is, er, not fully effective, or that he has some leverage on them.
- The why of it does not matter. If he files a formal complaint against you with HR, stating or insinuating that you are unable or unwilling to maintain a good working relationship with him, there's a good chance that HR will hold it against _you_, and your management will defend you faintly, if at all.
- Be especially wary if there is a shakeup in HR. A new team may choose to interpret synthetic or unreliable 'evidence' literally, and take action. They may conduct a kangaroo court, or they may not even bother with formalities.
I have come to believe that there are small teams of HR people who move from company to company, en masse, with the publicly unstated mission of cleaning out particular political factions within a company.
Your mileage may vary. I hope it does.
Mike Halloran
Pembroke Pines, FL, USA
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I would also offer this piece of advice......you spend 8+ hours with these people 5 days a week. Why on earth would you want ot socialise with them. I prefer to keep my circle of friends and my co-workers as 2 seperate groups.
That said....I hope all goes well for you.
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Barring you don a ski mask and corner the schmuck in a dark alleyway. I would suggest investing in a voice recorder and documenting his behaviour. Then show the evidence to your boss, NEVER EVER show it to the schmuck before showing it to your boss though. Oh and make sure that the person speaking in the voice recorder can be clearly identified.
Sounds somewhat sinister, but I'm a firm believer in quickly and efficiently removing cancers.
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That said, document and save but don't be the instigator; it's surprising hw often these jerks are favoured by management for no rational reason just as it is surprising how often non-professional behaviour is tolerated by management when logically you would expect otherwise.
His refusal to co-operate will impact on your own work and guess whose work will be reviewed in a "situation".
Management usually react to problems by associating the messenger with the problem i.e. if your raise the issue it is you who will be considered the problem maker.
Long term you can hope this guy will do enough damage to himself that he will ultimately get sacked... however, i wouldn't bet on it.. keeping your CV current seems a good bet and you don't want any "problems" with a reference.
PS this is probably the one time that those "team building" events can be useful.... not for team building but just to expend your entire arsenal of paint balls on your favourite target (see Icebreakers: thread731-131323 ) and note who else does the same!
JMW
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If it weren't for what he might say to turn my coworkers against me this would be a total laugh. The guy has serious serious issues. I said hi to him both times. The guy looks like a deer in the headlights when he looks at me.
It will be real interesting when I move into the same office area here soon. That is what I'm not looking forward too and it's only because of him.
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I've had coworkers treat me this way and we were on good terms. Some people are just plain weird at work and I really wouldn't let it bother you. Those mostly wrong personality stereotypes that engineers have are because some engineers actually perfer to have horrible interpersonal skills.
bigTomHanks
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Someone remind me--this isn't illegal (in the US) as long as ONE of the parties to the converation is aware of the recording, right?
Just making sure.
Hg
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Or you can just display it in plain sight and turn it on in an animated manner in front of the person. I believe that a court would count that as making the person aware. I don't really know for sure, those lawyers are tricky at best.
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This is a state to state issue. Some states require both parties to be aware of this (Like California) some do not (think Monica, Linda Tripp). Also, if it a telephone conversation that is interstate, both parites must be made aware of the recording. That is why when you call an 800 line, you get the message that "this call may be recorded for training purposes"...
Wes C.
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One thing is for sure, this will surely inspire me to focus on working the entire time I'm at work and even less likely to BS with anyone. If anything else I can show him up that way. I like showing people how professional I am, but hate playing the part of the stoic at work.
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The point is that by doing this you distance yourself from the real problem and your complaint looks more genuine.
Needless to say if all goes well the lout will be going to sensitivity training or worse :)
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the danger is that unless the affected women co-workers have complained of harrasment, a complaint from a new arrival in that work area will send all the wrong signals.
Management aren't the brightest lights on the tree and they will see this as a problem they didn't want to know about being raised by someone who is not affected by the harrasment; who has just joined that work area and who obviously has other motives: i.e. a troublemaker.
Management hate problems and they hate people who bring them problems. Worst of all they hate the problems that could land them in court defending themselves against all sorts of human rights violations.
It is a sad fact that whistle blowers only ever get the satisfaction of having done the right thing because no one else will. Its the same thing with complaints.
Be prepared for if the s*** hits the fan and even be prepared that Mr Unprofessional may steal a march and make a pre-emptive claim whether justified or not.
Actually, and ideally (but in extreme circumstances), try and figure out how to make him do just this, make it his problem and let him make himself a problem to the management.
Let him go to them with a complaint (real or imaginary) and then act all innocent when management make their enquiries... "Mr UP said that? I can't understand it, we always have been most cordial and polite...etc" Now let him explain to management that that just isn't true, he's cut you dead every time you spoke to him.
Of course, if he is a nuisance to every one else and especially the women, just say "Ask anyone in that area, ask Sally for example, she'll confirm it." While "Sally" may not be prepared to go to management with harrasment complaints, when invited by the management to comment on Mr Unprofessional's conduct, you can bet Sally won't let the opportunity pass.
First though, try and catch him sitting at his desk, trap him there (make sure witnesses are around), say "Hi! how's it going today? what did you think about that game last night?" and then wait there in expectant silence. Don't say anything more.
This might just break him down.
It's easy for him to cut you dead passing in the corridor or whatever, but if he is to cut you now he has to stand up, manouver round you and exit as gracefully as he can. Then he has to wait for you to go away from his desk (don't, engage in some mundane unrelated discussion with someone at the next desk or something.)
ALternatively you're going to precipitate a "groundhog event" that will draw HR like flys and you'll have plenty of witnesses that he "just lost it".
Anyway, this isn't about fair, or about right: the world is not a fair place and the workplace is even less so. Its about the survival of number one and you shouldn't forget it. You might also adopt the view that if this his game you might aswell enjoy it.
PS I am indebted to another forum member for the definition of a "grounhog event": a happening in open plan offices, with or without low level partitions, so extreme that everyone pops their heads over the partitions to see what's going on.
JMW
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If somebody I didn't like wandered over to my desk and started asking me about the game last night while I was thinking about something they'd probably get a very anglo saxon response at best. And if they complained to my manager he'd say, well then, just leave him alone.
And all this james bond stuff leaves me pretty cold as well.
Just ignore him. It's what you were told as a child, and it is still valid. If the women don't like the way he treats them they have plenty of opportunity to sort it out themselves.
Cheers
Greg Locock
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Without giving all the details up, two of the girls who adore him did not go to school for the field we are in. They are getting a free paid education from this guy.
Makes us who have went through the masters program required for this field sick in a way. They need him. So i think they will put up with him.
It is a long story. But believe me I am very upset. He is a total jerk.
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As said in my earlier post, I am managing a similar situation for the past 11 months - in fact, I have occasional official interaction due to some overlap in our working needs. I put everything in an e-mail, mark a copy to our common boss, give him a deadline depending on when I am supposed to submit to my client and there ends the matter. If he delays or does not provide information, I send him a polite reminder and he is left with no choice but to answer me. Otherwise, we would have probably greeted each other maybe once in a month or so !!! I even tried sending him a birthday card to help things, but he didn't even bother to reply nor say a thank you !!!
Dave - My suggestion is to just ignore him and concentrate on your work. More importantly, don't lose your cool.
HVAC68
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I hope I'm wrong about this: I think you're doomed.
If you stay, the best thing you can do is interact with him as little as possible, as professionally as possible. That may not be enough to save your job.
It's not worth saving. You're stressed now, and proximity is going to make that worse. You haven't been able to change him, and management has absolutely no interest in doing so.
Any groundhog events (I love that phrase too), no matter the proximate cause, will bring down a turdstorm on you. It sounds like no one, certainly not the females, would testify on your behalf, even if HR bothered to conduct a kangaroo court. They won't. In corporate America, there is no due process.
1. GET ANOTHER JOB. ASAP.
2. GET OUT.
Mike Halloran
Pembroke Pines, FL, USA
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Dave,
I feel your joy about joining the same office to trouble the guy seems to be superficial and it is like masking your disgust. Further, that guy seems to be indifferent to this issue by not even caring to reply you. He can behave in that way when he knows that he has complete advantage over you. Your idea of recording his every day proceedings can be suicidal(this shows no difference between you and the guy about wasting your office time).
If I am in your position, I would try elsewhere. If I am compelled to be in my present job, then I would
1. Interact with that fellow as minimum possible.
2. Never say a word against him to any other soul.
3. Never be in his near vicinity.
4. First try to play with my own ego.
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It seems to me that a defensive or even apathetic stance will create more trouble b/c whatever he is saying against EngDave behind his back (the deer in the headlights look) could eventually screw EngDave over unless EngDave covers himself somehow or weakens his opponent's credibility (which appears to be what this person is doing to EngDave).
Someone once said that the best defense is a good offense.
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In terms of job title he is one step below, but he has been there many years and I could learn alot from him, if he would somehow let me.
I like this job and get along well with most of the other people. I also know my work ethic will time and time again prove to be the top in the department. What I don't know in terms of technical skills will come with time.
Without going into great detail about what I do, I'm in a new job in a new career and a new town. It is a technical job that is completely different than the engineering field i studied in undergrad and my first masters degree (but it is what I studied in my recent second masters degree). I am in a period of great learning. It is a shame that one guy refuses to help or be civil.
So leaving the job isn't an option.
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But that is what the next few weeks will be about. People with a superior work ethic always trumps the unprofessional ego driven prima donna in the work place (well almost always, but thats a whole different story)
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Your last post provides some encouragement in that you are new new employee in a more senior position. This suggests that the company have recruited you with specific current needs in mind. This probably makes you more valuable to them than a long term employee whose skills set may be less relevant; after all, he was not promoted, and hence he is less important to them currently than you are.
This could mean that unless either of you raises this officially with management, this will not be more than a personal iritant i.e. no one is going to do anything. At my last company we had just such an employee, the management response was to shuffle him from department to department until he retired. By the way, how close is he to retirement?
Note: you say changing jobs is not an option. This isn't necessarily your choice. You should be prepared that if it all comes to a head you may be let go. Hence, keep your CV current and out there.
JMW
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Dave I don't envy you but please be sure that you're one of thousands in the same situation...
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Maui
Constants aren't; variables won't.
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I work with many people in the department. Unfortunately he is one of the most outspoken and has been there the longest. Two things that make him kind of an instant authority around here.
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I have never once disparaged his experience, to the contrary i enjoyed getting advice from him, when he spoke to me that is.
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Respond to him in a cival but firm manner.
You could look for an opportunity to insunuate that
he is a baby and should get a life. This seems to
drive home to some people of his type that you don't
care if he is mad, and that he can stay mad at you until
the sun goes nova.
They respond to tolerance with agression.
They sometimes respond to firmness with a backdown.
In any case work on yourself to try to not let this
character have any impact on your emotional day.
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It does bother me in a way because I have done nothing to deserve it, but it is incredible.
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Come to think of it, my position is so similar to yours, the only difference being that I don't think I have anything to learn from my co-worker here (I am not sounding modest at all when I say this, but that's a bit of ego that has crept in after working for 15 years in the industry !!!)
Good luck.
HVAC68
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I once worked with a fellow who was weird, about 1/10th compared to your co-worker. The drafters would inch by inch push his cubicle walls closer together each day. After a couple of months the walls had him surrounded at the edge of his desk, too funny.
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Invite one of your managers and your colleague to a design review or project review. Put him in a position where he has to interact with you. Don't invite too many people - make sure he is the only one with adequate expertise other than yourself to provide objective critique of the design. If he refuses he will show himself to be an uncooperative moron in front of his employers. Don't allow him to sit quietly - engage him with direct questions: "I don't know if this is the best way to adress this widget design problem - what do you think?". Etc.
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As much as I know he has a history of this, it bothers me to no end, especially when he doesn't say a word to me but talks to other people.
Another lady at work called him a "joke". I guess he is different. I should have noticed that from the way he wears the same clothes everyday (and it isn't a work uniform, it is the same colored shirt and pants, he tells people he has 5 or 6 of them, but I think it might be the same one or two of the identical shirts and pants). I just wish his personality was like Fred Flintstone too!
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Take Greg's advice "Just ignore him. It's what you were told as a child, and it is still valid. If the women don't like the way he treats them they have plenty of opportunity to sort it out themselves." or find a new job. I'd bet the farm that the jerk hasn't wasted this much time worrying about what you think of him.
There is at least one at every office. Folks like this guy at work are what a friend of mine calls a "fly"...all they do is eat *&$% and bother people.
Good luck.
Brian
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This is actually a blessing. I won't have to hear extremely far left hippy views all day or his overly opinonated take on just about everything else.
And I'm going to wear headphones in the office at times, even if it looks slightly unprofessional. The noise in this new office is chaotic. A lot of it is him when he is entertaining the girls with storys.
Well at least I can one day aspire to be a 60 year old pickup artist as well!
Thanks for all the valuable advice!
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I will let everyone know how things workout. I think it will be fine. You can't be friends with everyone and work and friendship doesn't always mix.
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there have been many good suggestions and advice provided in this posting . . . by the quantity of postings you have made leads me to believe that perhaps you are lowering your standards of behavioral conduct to someone elses standards. rise above the occasion . . . you have too much to loose by focusing your attention, getting stressed, etc. on someone else in the organization of your employ. frankly, i second MH postings about departing. if this person is "that bad" and that much of an influence (positive or otherwise) on others, and management has not addressed it, then that organization is not worthy of your services. seems that a re-evaluation of your self and your goals is warranted . . . bottom line, the #1 reason why projects and business fail is communication - a breakdown of communication. it is a well-established fact, but so many people loose sight of this fact. stop communicating with this individual, you might as well leave. wait, lastly, shame on you for expressing your political beliefs to someone you hardly know. i've no doubt you were likely reaching out to establish rapport with this individual (new in town, do not know many folks, etc,) and your political beliefs chapped his hide. it takes two to tangle and you must rise above the occasion and resolve the matter; the other fella won't. it could be as simple as, gee, i really do not know what i did to upset you, but i am sorry and let bygones be bygones. hi, my name is such and such. you are . . . ok, what is your job here . . . at least you demonstrate a willingness to communicate . . .
regardless of what happens, good luck!
-pmover
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Never argue with an idiot - he'll drag you down to his level, then beat you with experience.
Maui
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after reading this epic novel...
engineerdave a couple of notes...
1. seems like the guy does not acknowledge your existence,
2. you are posting every single time you said: hi! to him, sorry to say but that reminded me of my kids when they were very young: daddy! daddy! she did not say hi to me!
3. if all your energy and focus are around what this guy does or says or what a good time he is having with the female engineers... think again... more likely than not you are not giving your job 100% effort.
some standard answers to the issues you mentioned:
ìf people is discussing politics, religion, family etc on the job and you want to stay out of it:
- sorry, kind of busy here...
- well... do you mind, i have a deadline
- if you've got nothing to do... please don't do it here.
- wow... seems like you have some spare time to discuss this... i can get you real busy in a second.
regarding HR... these are general rules when dealing with those types:
when you start a conversation... consider you have been informed of your Miranda rights.
where there is no justice, it is dangerous to be right. Quevedo (spanish author). Donde no hay justicia, es peligroso tener razón (original version)
cheers
saludos.
a.
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If you are having continual problems working with the guy why not sit down with him and discuss the issue (closed door). You are both professionals and you both have a job to do. Have a talk with him. Ask him if he has an issue with you, what is it?
Once you can answer the above you can start to work towards a professional working relationship. Letting things fester and biting backwards and forwards doesn't improve the situation. Of course if he doesn't wish to fix the solution there isn't much you can do other than being polite and conducting your job as best you can.
As with all advice- this is only my opinion. Feel free to make up your own mind.
Cheers.
Daniel.
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Mr Unprofessional may well be one, but Dave, you haven't said how well he gets on with the bosses, and since this is long term behaviour you are commenting on he must have some management support i.e. he may be a suck-up (or he may have genuine value to the company).
I don't want to steal the Techrepublic show but just thought interested parties might like to see the (so-far listed) traits of the office suck-up (if you have any new rules, post to them).
htt
Some are the obvious but some, I would have thought, involve a little risk.
JMW
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The other people in the office act strange when we are both around.
I can't wait until I am in there. I hope my presence causes him issues. My superior work ethic will shine through and most of those people will realize any crap he said about me was wrong.
I hate to mind read, but pop psychology is a field of interest of mine. I can read these people like their minds are completely open.
I don't think they've met anyone like me before.
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He brought it up several times to which I didn't respond. Then one night when we went out with the group from work (my birthday no less), we got into a big argument. It was myself and one girl there who agreed with him
After that he started acting weird. I don't know if it was because I handled my own in the debate against the two of them or what, but he holds a major grudge. And I haven't brought it up since.
But he has been acting strange since then.
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Reading the above and your commentary on the situation it reminds me of two children at school. The best advice is just get over it. Don't ignore him as that is also playing a game. Have a think. Maybe somewhere in internet land he is on a forum complaining about how you are acting??
BUT, from what you have said he seems a bit of a jerk. This may be difficult, but just act normally and don't get aggravated or wound up by him ignoring you etc. Concern yourself with your job and your tasks
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My boss sent him over to work with me on a project. I think it might be the first step in forcing us to get along.
He still doesn't say much but i'm happy for him to acknowledge me.
IT's one of those screwed up things. You hate the guy but your pissed he doesn't acknowledge you. What a jackass he can be.
Apparently another reason i'm in this battle with him i found out late Friday afternoon.
He hates my mentor. I couldn't believe the damn words he had for him.
Of course i told my mentor about how this guy was acting and he said it is normal for him and there have been people at work that he hasn't talked to for years.
What a weird guy.
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"I hate to mind read, but pop psychology is a field of interest of mine. I can read these people like their minds are completely open. I don't think they've met anyone like me before."
"He hates my mentor. I couldn't believe the damn words he had for him. Of course i told my mentor about how this guy was acting..."
Dave.... just look at the things you write, look at what you're doing. I think YOU are the troublemaker here. The other guy is doing exactly what we're trying to make you understand all the time: he's ignoring you. Stop this weird kindergarden business, Dave, please.
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Cheers
Greg Locock
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If you hate the guy, why are you pissed off that he doesn't ackowledge you.
As epoisses has said, looks like the problem seems to be "shifting" to EngineerDave.
HVAC68
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"Pop psychology" is twice as credible as "pop engineering".
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My suspicion that he has been talking bad about me to others has been confirmed. I will post more detail later.
This guy is a class A jerk. The deer in the headlight look probably is somehow related to this bullshit he's been spreading about me.
No class at all.
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Have you considered that some of the comments could possibly be true? I don't know what the comments were obviously, but if they contained some variant of the words 'obsessed', 'neurotic', 'psychological problems' then maybe you need to take some of it on board. Get a grip.
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I think I'm hypersensitive to this for alot of reasons.
1) I'm in a new career and new town where I dont know alot of people so work takes on an extra importance.
2) I've been in work environments before as a young engineer where I didn't promote myself or market myself enough. I refuse to let someone else try to market me in a bad light. However I do think talking badly about someone reflects badly on the person commenting as well.
3) The questions were all directed on my work ethic and intellect, two things this person is not qualified to judge. But I have heard him make disparaging remarks about others on this so why should I be surprised.
I profoundly apologize to board members for carrying this thread on until it was beat like a dead horse.
I do appreciate all the advice and can surely understand why some of you think I might be a source of the problem as well.
RE: A negative unprofessional coworker